Access to Gabriel's school and teachers

Any fight that commences will be initiated by you.  I am only request for
the x-th time (sorry, I've lost track) that you direct Gabriel's school to
release information to me, so that I can be kept apprised of how he is
*really* performing in school.


Let me, please, respond to your statements:


I have never told them not to release information to you, I just haven't
specifically told them to do so.


When I spoke with Rhonda Mares, who is one of the administrators at the
school, she told me that when you registered Gabriel you made a point of
emphasizing that you have sole legal and physical custody and that "the
father" has no legal rights to, or authority over, Gabriel.  And, you
provided them a copy of the temporary custody order.  She said this to me
after taking a moment to review Gabriel's file, so I'm guessing there is a
note to that affect in the file.  I have been asking you to do this for
months and you have ignored every one of those requests.



but do you remember when I asked to be list as Gabriel's mother at Broad
Avenue?


You have never asked that!  Do you know why?  Because you never needed to.
You were already listed as the biological mother, and joint legal custody
holder at Broad Ave.  However, the school's policy was that each party who
will have access to the child's information had to appear in person at the
office (for security reasons).  Do you not remember stopping at the office
the day we went to Broad Avenue and you showing them your ID and adding you
to the list of contacts?  Then, after we left the office, you showed me
that you had "Damn It Feels Good to be a Gangster" by Ghetto Boys on your
phone.  That was only a few weeks after you had returned Gabriel in 2011.



Do you remember what you said to me?  How you responded to that request?


I did not respond because there was no request.  And because you were
already on his paperwork.



I was never even given any information about anything when he went to
Dodson, I don't even know if I was listed on any paperwork there - but that
was apparently fine.


I did not provide you anything from Dodson because the entire time Gabriel
was here you showed no interest in his education at all.  You never asked
for anything.  That's the difference: I'm asking, and you're refusing.  You
didn't ask, so I couldn't have refused.  You were listed on the Dodson
paperwork as his mother and as having joint legal custody.  However, you
did not set up your account on TeacherWeb or JupiterGrades, so you would
not have been able to get any information from them.  I'm pretty sure you
didn't even know you had to do that, right?  Although, it did state on
Dobson's web site that parents were required to do so.  See, that's how
much interest you had in your son's educational development.  If you had
setup your TeacherWeb and JupiterGrades accounts you would have been
emailed all pertinent information and you would have been able to see his
grades and performance up to the minute.  Not once did you ever call Dodson
to speak to his teachers or make any inquiries.  I know that because I
requested they put a note in his file to inform me if you did.



I guess I don't understand why it was alright for you but if the
situation is reversed I am being malicious or hiding something.  Were those
your reasons?


I believe I've addressed this in the above paragraphs.  As explained
therein, there was no malice on my part with respect to your access to
Gabriel's educational information.  You just chose not to have any interest
in it.  You were listed as his biological mother, as having joint legal
custody , and as a contact on all his paperwork.  You could have called the
school at any time to find out how to setup your TeacherWeb and
JupiterGrades access - but you chose not to.  And now you try to justify
your current actions by claiming that I was doing the same thing previously.

So, you didn't say it directly, but you implied in your message that you
have been refusing to direct the school to release information to me
because that's what I was doing before, and if it was okay for me to do it
before then you should be able to do it now.  Is that about right?

But, clearly I was NOT doing that before and you had full access to all of
Gabriel's school and educational information at all times.  I'm sure the
schools still have those records on file and can look them up for you.



Also, I kept meaning to tell you; I had a meeting with the teachers and
the IEP team right before break and we all agreed that Gabriel does not
need that much assistance, so they have dropped him down to what is called
a 504, which requires limited modifications, no where near as extensive as
the IEP and we only meet once a school year.


Wonderful.  I am adamantly opposed to special treatment for people with
handicaps and disabilities.



He has become efficient at touch typing as well


Um...okay?  I saw him type while he was up here.  Perhaps we have different
ideas about "efficient".


Fox